“Above all things, never think that you’re not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you very much at your own reckoning.” — Anthony Trollope, The Small House at Allington
“In the name of a new theory past theory is declared honorable but feeble; one can lay aside Freud and Marx—or appreciate their limitations—and pick up the latest at the drive-in window of thought.” — Russell Jacoby, Social Amnesia: A Critique of Conformist Psychology from Adler to Laing
adapted from Colipera.com
Doubt — Imposter Syndrome. Feeling that you are unqualified, that you are an imposter, a pretender, acting like you know what you are doing.
Solution: Vulnerability. Find out about the insecurities of people you admire. Imposter Syndrome is everywhere. There is no shortage of examples. AND share your vulnerabilities because this makes them lose their (paralyzing) power. A voiced insecurity is powerless.
Guilt — Not deserving of success.
Solution: Give back; pay it forward, teach. You will buy yourself a clear conscience and along the way realize that you deserve your success.
Reality — Success doesn’t feel as good as imagined.
Solution: Instead of always going for more, stop moving the goalposts on yourself and find, new, different goals. Mark the accomplishment, bring closure to the goal and you will enjoy the success more.
“Platitude — An idea (a) that is admitted to be true by everyone, and (b) that is not true.” — H. L. Mencken, A Mencken Chrestomathy
“I have a friend I’ve never seen
He hides his head inside a dream
Someone should call him and see if he can come out.”
— Neil Young, Only Love Can Break Your Heart, After the Gold Rush (1970)
“He manouvered two girls into his hotel room
One a friend, the other, the young one, a newer stranger”
— Jim Morrison, Angels and Sailors, An American Prayer (1978)