“I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best.”– Oscar Wilde
Seth Godin describes one of my practices with the phrase “share your confusions.”
I like to find people to talk over problems that I am struggling to understand. This helps me in three ways:
- Describing the source of my confusion forces me to clarify my thoughts.
- Answering clarification questions sheds more light on what the problem is.
- The suggested solutions tell me a lot about what the problem really is.
Talking to someone about a problem I cannot wrap my head around is the best way for me to work out the solution and the solutions are usually better than for the problems I understand immediately.
“In a war of ideas it is people who get killed.”– Stanislaw Lec
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” — Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
There is a wonderful cartoon show here in France. It is called Martin Matin (Martin Morning). It is about a kid, Martin, that transforms into a new character everyday. One day he is a caveman, the next a spy and so on.
The tag line for the show is “everyday it’s the same thing” because everyday Martin is completely different.
“The story of modern America begins with the discovery of the white man by The Indians.” — Marshall McLuhan
The classic defense when you accuse someone of being prejudiced is:
“Some of my best friends are [insert minority group]”
“Some of my best friends are anti-semitic.” (I am Jewish)